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The 5 types of guys you should never ever marry

In general, women tend to rely on words, whereas men rely on actions. So, when men speak sweetly to women, women believe them, even if they don’t behave accordingly. Men, on the other hand, see how women behave, and interpret the behavior to mean what they want to believe, regardless of what the woman says.

This discrepancy between words and behavior is especially problematic in marriage-bound relationships. So, watch out if your man is one of these five types:

The “help me until I’m ready” guy. The “need help” type is totally entrenched in his own insecurities. He only talks about his own problems — never yours — but he wants a lady by his side because it makes him feel worthy. So, he keeps her there by asking her to help him “until he’s ready.” But, guess what: He’ll never be ready, and so, he is not husband material.

The “dare to discuss marriage” guy. Since he knows women believe in words not actions, he dares talk about marriage and future plans with you, knowing it’s what you want to hear. But that’s all he’ll do; no further action is ever taken. There is never a timeframe for actions; actions are even never discussed, and if they come up, the conversation suddenly goes in different directions.

The “be my guest and discuss marriage” guy. This guy lets you do all the talking about marriage you like. He knows you dream about it; he listens to you discuss it in great detail — where your home will be, what kind of furniture you’ll buy, what kind of wedding you want. And when you ask him about dreams, he says, “Whatever you want, honey.” Always look at his actions. If there aren’t any, if he’s all talk, he’s not husband material.

The “bear with me” guy. He finds nice, logical excuses that seem acceptable. You know, he can’t take action now because he’s busy with his career, or his weight loss, or his parents’ needs. You name it, and the statement is “Bear with me.”

The “let’s have fun first” guy. He sticks around for the thrill of the game. When the fun is out, he’s onto a new adventure and a new thrill. He’s not here for future plans or kids or family or even settling down and confiding in one woman. He wants and talks about fun and about sex. Whenever you talk marriage, the face changes, the fun ends, and the statement he repeats is, “You are spoiling the moment,” hoping you’ll eventually drop the subject. If you don’t, soon he’ll be out and about for another thrill.

Health Benefits of Sex

Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health expert.

People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

Regular sex cannot be underestimated as a factor for reducing stress, bolstering self-esteem and fostering feelings of intimacy and bonding between partners.

But the real point of this article is the fact that a healthy sex life can provide for a longer, healthier and, most would agree, more enjoyable life. Among the many health benefits of sex are:

  • Heart Health

  • Lower Blood Pressure

  • It’s a Form of Exercise

  • Pain Relief

Talk about flipping the script: “Yes, tonight, honey—I have a headache.” The surge of hormones released after an orgasm can help ease any annoying ache, whether it’s a strained back or a head pounder, says Meston. A study conducted at the Headache Clinic at Southern Illinois University found that half of female migraine sufferers reported relief after climaxing. “The endorphins that are released during an orgasm closely resemble morphine, and they effectively relieve pain,” says Meston. Have a migraine but your man isn’t around? Self-medicate by treating yourself with some solo sex. As long as you hit your peak, masturbating will have the same soothing effect.

 

  • Improve Sleep

It’s downright dreamy how an O can lull you to sleep. That’s because the same endorphins that help you de-stress can also relax your mind and body, priming you for slumber, says Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D., director of the Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of Texas at Austin and coauthor of Why Women Have Sex. Plus, during orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released. “Prolactin levels are naturally higher when we sleep, which suggests a strong relationship between the two,” she says. But if you’re wild in the sack, take note: Highly active sex can make you feel more energized than sleepy. Sex should never be a snooze, but if you want to use knocking boots as a sleep aid, skip the acrobatics and opt for a subdued session.

 

  • Stress Relief

If you’re freaking out about tomorrow’s job interview, slip between the sheets. Research from the University of the West of Scotland reveals that people who had intercourse at least once over two weeks were better able to manage stressful situations such as public speaking, says study author and psychology professor Stuart Brody, Ph.D. That’s because endorphins and oxytocin are released during sex, and these feel-good hormones activate pleasure centers in the brain that create feelings of intimacy and relaxation and help stave off anxiety and depression, says WH advisor Laura Berman, Ph.D., an assistant clinical professor of ob-gyn and psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University and author of It’s Not Him, It’s You! You don’t have to climax to net the effects, but you’ll get the biggest surge of soothing hormones if you have an orgasm. Just one more reason to shoot for a stellar finish!

 

  • Increase Intimacy and Improve Your Relationship

Things That Can Cause Vaginal Dryness

Things That Can Cause Vaginal Dryness

There are many possible causes of so ­called dry vagina,

including hormonal changes, irritants to delicate tissues, and

even anxiety. Here’s what you can do to keep a lack of vaginal

lubrication from causing painful sex.

1­-You’re Stressed Out

Stress takes the blame for a lot of health issues, and you can add vaginal dryness to the

list. If it doesn’t temporarily kill your libido outright, feeling anxious or pressured can

make it harder to get turned on, says Dweck. Once the stress lifts, your juices should

start flowing.

2­-Your Birth Control Pill Is Messing With You

“One little­known side effect of oral contraceptives is reduced vaginal lubrication,” says

Dweck. And unlike some other side effects that happen when you first go on the Pill, this

one probably won’t clear up in a few months. “I’ll usually advise my patients to use

store­bought lubricant, or if it’s really uncomfortable, consider going off the Pill and

trying another type of birth control,” she says.

3­-Low Estrogen Levels

The walls of your vagina are normally constantly lubricated by a

thin layer of liquid. This is maintained in great part by the

hormone called estrogen. If your levels of estrogen are low, you

don’t get that wetness, which doubles as vaginal protection. Low

estrogen levels are the reason why dryness happens so often to

women during menopause, because estrogen levels drop at this

point in our biological lives. Other reasons why your estrogen

may be low include childbirth, breastfeeding, chemotherapy,

and smoking cigarettes.

4­-Childbirth/Nursing Can Cause Vaginal Dryness

At first, it may seem surprising to hear that new mothers experience vaginal dryness.

After all, the body is creating and discharging so many fluids to aid in the birthing and

nursing process during this time, one might think that providing vaginal lubrication would

be at the top of mother nature’s to­do list. Not so, say the experts at Parents Magazine.

“While you’re nursing, your body produces less of the hormone estrogen, which can

cause the tissues in your vagina to be thinner and drier than usual. The good news is

that things should get back to normal after you wean your baby. Until then, you can use

a water­based vaginal lubricant.”

What if you’re not breastfeeding but still experience vaginal dryness after giving birth?

This could be a temporary hormonal imbalance that your body will regulate on its own.

But if you’re concerned or the symptoms persist, ask your doctor for their advice.

5-­Menstruation Causes Vaginal Dryness

It’s normal for a woman’s hormone levels to dip while she’s on her period. One of the

primary hormones responsible for keeping your vagina moist during menstruation is

estrogen. When your estrogen levels are depleted, vaginal dryness can be an irritating

side effect, especially when it comes to inserting a tampon.

One quick fix for this is to apply a small amount of personal lubricant on the applicator to

make it easier to slide the tampon in. Better yet, you may want to consider avoiding

tampons, which can, by their absorbent nature, dry out the inside of the vagina. Try

using a pad instead, at least on days with high menstrual flow. You may want to refrain

from wearing panty liners when you’re not on your period, as these can also wick

natural moisture away from your most sensitive parts.